Monday, November 08, 2010
The New Recurring Homeschool Question
When my son was a little younger, and I was pontificating on homeschooling (and the only parent in my peer group actually having the kids do *work), I was continually asked:
"Are you REALLY going to homeschool?"
But now that my son is at the age (6) where he's legally supposed to be in school, but isn't(!)....I'm continually bombarded with a new question:
"So HOW LONG are you going to homeschool?"
In fact last night I told my wife I had be asked this so much I was going to mention it on my blog.
She replied that she had suffered that same line of inquiry just yesterday!
I give a diplomatic answer:
CaptiousNut - I have no idea where or what I'm going to be doing in 5-6 years. If you had told me, 6 years ago, that I would relocate from Brooklyn to North Carolina, start blogging, then move up to Boston, have two kids, move to a coastal town south of Boston I'd never heard of and LOVE IT, decide to homeschool, and them move to Long Island - a place I'd never been fond of - AND MOVE IN WITH MY FREAKIN' MIL....I'd have thought you were crazy....So I really have no idea what the future holds for me, if I'm going to be homeschooling or what.
And that answer does pacify the interrogator. From my response they take that *I probably won't homeschool my kids forever* and that my kids *will eventually become normal, go to high school, and then college*.
Now if I instead express my ACTUAL current belief - that my ultimate goal is for my kids to NEVER step foot in a school or college - that will definitely provoke some discomfort.
Of course the appalling irony is:
While these people are explicitly questioning my MY long term plans....it's actually THEM who don't have any!
I'm the one who's spent considerable time contemplating how I want my kids to turn out and researching how best to achieve that end.
And THEY have done nothing whatsoever in this department!
Blindly following groupthink and inertia just DOES NOT constitute a thoughtful, comprehensive parenting or educational plan.